So… I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. And I don’t really blog like ever… but I really needed to get this out of my head before I forget it…
Lately on twitter I’ve seen a lot of comments about the beautiful Gabrielle Union’s new show on BET called Being Mary Jane and how bad it makes black women look. I’ve seen comments ranging from how tasteless it is to how MJ is glorifying ‘side chicks/hos’. Then, twitter pulled in my imaginary best friend Kerry Washington into this and said the same exact thing. Now, I’m well aware that the internet is full of trolls and I shouldn’t care or what ever the fuck but… how is this at all different from the millions of other shows out there on TV that have women sleeping with married men?!
Did you stop watching Sex in the City? No.
Did you stop watching Mistresses? No.
Did you stop watching Betrayal? Well maybe…this show was so dry.
Did you stop watching Revenge? No.
Did you stop watching Downton Abbey? No.
Did you stop watching Desperate Housewives? No.
See where I’m going with this?
But all of a sudden Gabrielle and Kerry are single-handedly making black women look like objects that are only good for sex and will never be wife material. In no way shape or form have people said anything about white women bringing other white women down in any of the shows I’ve listed above…but since hating on black women is a common trope in our society somehow it’s clearly their fault.
Now, as a young black women I’m very well aware that the media does not represent us very well. So when these black women star in these new TV shows, we have high hopes that they will represent each and every one of us. And when they don’t we get turned off and upset which makes sense because we don’t have as many options! But that’s another topic for another day…
I really don’t think it’s fair to try and pin the whole problem of WOC being seen as temporary objects of desire or as a fetish on Scandal and Being Mary Jane. Women of all races PERIOD have been playing these roles on TV. This is a misogyny issue, rather than a race issue. Don’t even get me started about how no one is mad at the men in these shows either, when 9 times out of 10…THEY ARE THE ONE BREAKING THE MARRIAGE VOWS.
Adultery is what TV is all about these days. If you must be angry, get mad at the show for it’s poor acting, bad writing or weak plot lines! Don’t fault these actresses for bringing a check home every week. Understand the fact that this where 21st century TV drama’s are mostly about these days. And quite frankly, if you don’t like it… shut the fuck up and watch Family Feud or get out there and write some pilots that bring back the Claire Huxtable’s of TV.
Right now we live in a world where sex sells, and adultery gets viewers and if we don’t change that first TV, regardless of the actresses race, will stay the same.
a feminist who just wants to enjoy fictional characters ruin their lives on TV.